Because I've Always Done it That Way

Is your answer to why you do something always "Because I've always done it that way?"

"Because I've always done it that way" is not really a reason - it's a description. Learn how you can change your narrative in your head - and change your life!

always done itIf your go-to response is that you are doing something because you have always done it that way, it's time to rewrite your narrative!

So many times when I work with clients, the situation arises where there is some problem with following through with the plan, and while I'm trying to help them, a certain scenario plays out. I'll provide an example.

Let's say that a client has a workout routine 5 days per week. The routine takes about 30 minutes to do. She likes to work out in the morning, first thing. However, one day she had a dentist appointment very early so she missed her workout (why didn't she set her alarm for earlier? That's a whole other conversation). Another morning her dog threw up all over the place and that obviously took precedence.

A fitness-affirming response would be that the person would just work out later in the day instead. However, this client didn't do that. I asked her why (this is not about a particular person, for the record! It's a fictional example). Here is what she said:

"Because if I don't work out in the morning, I won't do it."

I asked this person, "Is it a scheduling thing? Do you not have time later in the day?"

"No, I have time. I just always work out in the morning," she says.

Not really...Because you didn't. 

What she means is, "I only work out in the mornings."

You see, in her mind, she created this rule that she only works out in the mornings. This is how she always did it before.

Well this isn't before. Before doesn't matter. This is now. Don't let your past dictate your future. Make a decision that your future self will thank you for. Make a different choice.

What if we could practice changing our minds?

Now, don't get me wrong - it's easier said than done. I get it - we all have our habits and our preferences. But realize that the #1 thing holding you back is most often you and your mindset. Instead of thinking that as shame that it's all your fault, flip it around and think of it as opportunity. You have an opportunity to change your mind and therefore change your life. 

Which will you decide?

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